Wednesday, December 18, 2019

A Bitter Experience...



Gunshots rang over my head as I pulled my sister Nora down to the floor, other customers were running frantically about, screaming, crying, and calling for help. There were two masked men with guns in their hands that stood at the front counter demanding money from the clerk. Still in a state of fear, I covered my sister's mouth with my hand as we hid amongst the clothing racks. I didn't want to distract the armed robbers with the hope that they would just take the money and leave. That day we were in the mall shopping for dad's birthday gift!. 

Suddenly I heard , ''let's get out of here'',  as they made a mad dash towards the front entrance of the door. I then gave a heavy sigh of relief as I removed my hand from my sister's mouth, her eyes were fixed on me as she was shivering. I asked " Nora are you okay? The gunmen have left the store". She hesitated for a moment before she cried out. " Take me home right now." As we were walking out the store and looking around, we saw people slowly sticking their heads out of other nearby stores to see if all was clear to come out. "Where are the police when you needed one?",  Nora asked, as we scurried to our vehicle.







 In the evening it was confirmed on the radio that three people were shot dead and one older woman  who had heart  attack had been hospitalized.

Nora said " I'll never come shopping again in my life . This is the last time I ever go out to buy anything". While I was still shaking , I tried to remain calm. I didn't want Nora to know I was very afraid. I had to always keep my cool around her being a role model for her to look up to, but I did lose my cool , because I'm not the cause why the store got robbed,  so I lashed out at her and said " Shut your damn mouth, there where people injured in the store and it could have very well been us. " I can see the fear still in her eyes as I was trying to keep my composer as we drove home. 



 Arriving home , Nora ran upstairs and narrated to mom what had happened. She was sobbing after every syllable spoken as she was still upset from the shooting. Mom consoled her , then spoke with me on what had happened . I was speechless , I didn't know how to say that it was my fault that I put Nora in danger. As I turned to walk away tears filled the weld of my eyes. I kept seeing the men with mask shooting around me. It took everything I had not to run out of the house into the streets and just kept running, but I must be strong as my mother had always taught me to be.


Later that night as we sat around the dinner table. Mom said " Mia why don't you say grace dear before we eat ,"  Nora stood up at the table shaking and grabbed the butcher knife , She thrusted it deep into the turkey. The only thing she could think about is the video that kept playing over and over in her mind about the gunmen shooting her in the head, and the recorded scratched record of people yelling and screaming almost drove her mad.

Mia understood how Nora felt, she too couldn't escape the misery of what happened on that day. Trying to tame her feelings , she suddenly became enraged and hit the table with her hand to see if she was still among the living. Mom slapped Nora and told Mia to get a grip. She insisted upon praying to calm both girls down. All of them go to church on a regular basis and this is what Mom said' 

"We're living in troubling times, The Bible keep us rooted and grounded.


If you confess with your mouth "Jesus is Lord "and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. "

Wednesday, December 11, 2019

Do women handle stress better than men?


During his research, David found thousands of people committing  sucide everyday as a result of suffering from some types of depression or stress related problems. These are real problems that people shouldn't take for granted. Let us listen to Van's take on Stress in the video below.


Nina slumped over in her chair with her hands across her eyes, crying. She didn't know why she was crying but said " I just feel so sad here lately, and nothing appears to be going my way''.  David then walked up, touched her shoulder and responded " Everything will be okay , can I get you anything?''. Looking up at David with bloodshot eyes she stated " Can you make this feeling go away? I just really need a good friend right now, " and that's when Nina slit both of her veins in her wrist with a box cutter knife and blood flowed. David stood over her in shock with what just happened.


As Nina fell out of the chair onto the floor, David reached in his back pocket for his phone and called an ambulance right away. "Please hang on there, help is on the way," he said. He later found out from her sister Diane that said  "she is going through a state of depression and stress from being harrassed by her co-workers on the job . She was the only female in her department that was Latino and her co-workers constantly bullying, intimidating , mocking and lying to upper management on her. Infact, she had reported them several times, as she attended meetings with supervisors on this matter and nothing had been done to stop the harrassment." 



David came to the hospital to visit  her sometimes when the Doctor approved her visits. He had fancied Nina and wanted to be more than friends , but he didn't want to pressure her. Nina informed her mom on what triggered these events that caused her to hurt herself she said " I felt down , tired and couldn't sleep at night, and after I was being harrassed at work.  I felt like there was no hope , no one cared and the thought of hurting myself raved in my mind. I was lost and had no one to turn to." Her family still live in Mexico and she had just moved to California to start a new life of her own.


Nina was discharged  from the hospital after seeking pyschaitric help.She had time at home to think about what she wanted to do to prevent this from happening to others, both Nina and David teamed up with a Crisis Center to help people in need and went around to organizations discussing the importance of seeking help for  stress/depression and bullying whether at work, home or school. They came up with an idea with making up a bumper sticker that read


Depression /Stress/ Bullying 
 Do be brave / Seek out help/ Build on trust 

   Millions of people reach out to the Crisis Center and purchase the bumper stickers, all their contributed funds went to opening up more Crisis Centers to help people in need. David and Nina finally married and went on to mentor over several Crisis Centers that were open to the public worldwide, at the entrance of every door read, "Your not alone, We're here for you"

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